Showing posts with label college. Show all posts
Showing posts with label college. Show all posts

Saturday, August 13, 2016

College Lists -- what to bring



We are fast approaching that time of year when one must start mucking out the kiddos' rooms, getting ready to send them off to college.

These days, each college has its own unique list of things that they will supply your incoming college freshman.  They also have their own list of things that they recommend that your college student brings along with them.  

Many of these items can be bought online, and delivered to your student's college.  Online shopping and often *free* delivery charges can greatly help with packing, particularly when you're sending your college student across the country.

Some colleges and universities also have a *do NOT bring these items* list.  Make sure that you check out your college's restrictions before arrival.

From what I remember, a million bajillion years ago when I first went off to college, dorm rooms are SMALL.  Take only those MUST NEED items with you.  You can always buy more once you arrive.  OR, online shop after dropping off your kids, and have the items shipped directly to them.

If, however, you have found your child a mansion, er, I mean, a spacious dorm room to live in, which can hold each and every thing they could possibly need or want, I have made up a fairly comprehensive list.

I think I've covered just about everything other than a bed, mattress, desk, desk lamp, and garbage can.  But I was assuming (and you know what it means to assume!) that the colleges and universities traditionally provide those items.

So here you go!




I made this into a PDF file to easily fit on one page for printing, but for the life of me I can't seem to get the PDF file to upload.  So here are two larger versions of the list to make it easier for you to see.




Did I leave anything out?  I'm sure I have...  Alas.  Amazon, here I come!

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Friday, June 17, 2016

Things to know before heading to college: The List

Things to make sure your child knows how to do 

before heading off to college


A hundred gajillion years ago, when my kiddos were still teensy weensy, I talked with a woman who had a high school senior.  She said that she had seen an article in the newspaper with a list of all the most important things kiddos should know how to do before they headed off to college.  She said that she cut the article out of the newspaper, and put it up on the fridge, where she and her son could look at it every day during his senior year.  Throughout the year, the two of them worked on the list together, making sure that by the time he left for college, he knew how to do each and every one of the items on that list.

As my children have aged, I have started amassing my list of "to dos," and thought I'd post it here.  As the list grows, I'll add to it.  And if any of you have further suggestions, I'd love to add those to the list.  Here's my list (in no particular order) so far:

The List


  1. How to cook and prepare 7 full meals (breakfasts, lunches, and dinners) from scratch.
  2. How to plan meals and then go to the store and buy for the planned meals
  3. How to choose good cuts of meat and the best produce
  4. How to sew on a button
  5. How to iron a shirt
  6. How to tie a tie (and a bowtie)
  7. How to wash, dry, and fold clothes
  8. How to treat a stain on clothes
  9. How to wash dishes (prepping dishes for the dishwasher, and washing by hand)
  10. How to clean the bathrooms
  11. How to vacuum and dust
  12. How pump their own gas, check oil, change tire, check air tire pressure, and jump start a car.
  13. Have the phone number to a plumber/electrician/car mechanic/towing service if ever needed.
  14. How to balance a checkbook / manage a bank account
  15. How to pay bills (with a check and with online banking)
  16. How to plan and stay on a budget, including how to get and use coupons.
  17. How to file taxes
  18. How to apply for credit cards, understanding fees and the impact of credit cards on your life, etc.
  19. How to read a credit report and manage credit / improve credit score, how check credit report annually and dispute inaccuracies
  20. How to save for retirement, including how to invest money and having an emergency fund.
  21. How to write and maintain an effective resume
  22. How to look for, and apply to a job
  23. How to ace a job interview
  24. How to look for and rent an apartment 
  25. How to schedule and confirm doctor appointments and have prescriptions filled.
  26. How to effectively use birth control
  27. How to administer First Aid (burns, cuts, sprains, broken bones)
  28. How to administer CPR
  29. How to administer the Heimlich maneuver
  30. How to treat common illnesses--cough, fever, flu. 
  31. How to treat insect bites, or poison ivy, or bee stings.
  32. How to do minor home repairs. Unclog toilets/drains, change lightbulbs, properly hang pictures, etc. 
  33. How to turn the water off to a toilet or sink if there is a leak
  34. How to turn the gas or electricity off/where to find the switches to do so
  35. How to operate a fuse box
  36. How to fix running toilets, clogged toilets, clogged drains, and leaking faucets
  37. How to use a drill
  38. How to paint a room (including taping, painting trim, and rolling paint on walls)
  39. How to use a fire extinguisher
  40. How to put out different types of fires
  41. What to keep on hand for an emergency (batteries, candles, etc.)
  42. How to be a respectful houseguest
  43. How to maintain a lawn (mow, weed, plant bulbs, flowers, and vegetables)
  44. How to keep up on the news, government, etc.
  45. How to drive 
  46. How to swim 
  47. How to use public transportation 
  48. How to register to vote
  49. How to contact their state and national representatives
  50. How to be aware of one’s surroundings and how to be able to defend themselves in scary situations 
  51. How to put on make up appropriately
  52. How to shop for clothes that fit and flatter
  53. How to open a bottle of wine  
  54. How to fix one mean cocktail
  55. Read the book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”
  56. Raise your kids to use common sense, try to do as much for themselves as possible, and know when to ask for help and who and/or where to go to for help when they need it, they'll be ok to get started in life out from under our wings.
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Thursday, April 21, 2016

College Tours - Questions to ask



Questions to ask on College Tours


Take note of your first impressions:
  • What is the campus like?  Does it feel homey? Can you see yourself walking around?
  • Do you need a bike? Or car?  Can you easily get from class to class without too much rush?
  • Do the people seem friendly? Do they seem happy? If you stop and ask someone a question, do they seem helpful?
  • How is the neighborhood surrounding campus?  Does it feel safe? Does it seem to welcome the college atmosphere?
  • How easy is it to get from campus to the neighboring towns?  Does campus provide a free public transportation pass?
Admissions:
  • What percentage of students are admitted via Early Admissions?
  • What are the average SAT / ACT / GPA scores of the previous year’s class profile?
  • What is the acceptance rate?
  • What are they looking for in their prospective students?

Classes:
  • Ask to see a typical classroom.  How up to date are the materials?  Are there smart boards? Overhead projectors?  How comfortable is the furniture?  Is there adequate lighting?  Left-handed desk-chairs?
  • How easy is it to get courses you want at times that are convenient?
  • How easy is it to get hold of professors if you have a question? Are they fairly responsive to emails? Available only during office hours?
  • Do the professors allow you to turn in papers online? Or is printing required?  
  • Are Powerpoint presentations / syllabi posted online?
  • What are the typical course requirements: how many exams, research papers, and presentations in a semester class?
  • How many elective classes can you take and still graduate in 4 years?
  • Is there a PE requirement?
  • How do most people buy their books? From the school bookstore? Online? Amazon?

Research / Internships / Finding a job during the summer :   
  • How easy is it for students to do research with professors?
  • How easy is it for students to write and publish papers/get their names on papers with professors?
  • What prerequisites ( activities / grades / classes) do I need to take before I am eligible to work in a lab with professors on their projects? 
  • Are students ever able to do their OWN research in labs
  • Do the professors who do research work with outside companies?  
  • Are research and internship opportunities for undergraduates competitive?
Assistance with classes:
  • Do professors have office hours that are convenient?  Is it easy to get hold of professors?
  • Are tutors available?
  • Are study groups in place? 

Dorms:
  • How are dorms chosen?  
  • How are roommates chosen?
  • Do all dorm rooms have Wifi? Common Areas only? Or in the rooms themselves?        
  • Are the dorms air conditioned?  Are the classrooms air conditioned?
  • Do most upperclassmen live in dorms? Or do they move off campus?
  • What are the laundry facilities like? Coins? Credit Cards?
  • Are there exercise facilities in the dorms themselves? 
  • Are there dining facilities in the dorms themselves?

Libraries:
  • What are the typical library hours on campus?  
  • Are the facilities sufficient?  Comfy  / quiet places to work?  Places for groups to gather and work together?
  • Do the libraries have wifi?
  • Are there printers available in the libraries for students to use?  If so, how much does it cost to print?

Computers:  
  • Mac or PC friendly campus?
  • Do I need to bring a printer? or is there a printer available on campus?  
  • How much does printing cost?
  • Are their discounts available for purchasing a computer through the school?

Food:
  • I’m a vegetarian.  What are some typical food choices I’ll have at lunch and dinner?
  • What is the meal plan like?
  • How easy is it to find food on campus if you miss the dining hall meal hours?
  • Which dining places on campus accept the meal plan?
  • Are there any places off-campus that accept the meal plan?
  • How easy is it to get food off campus?

Study Abroad:
  • Is the SA program competitive?
  • If I find an accredited SA program that isn’t affiliated with the school, would it be possible to attend there and have my credits transfer?
  • Do most students who SA stay for a term? or a year?
  • Does Financial Aid Transfer over during Study Abroad?
  • How easy is it to graduate in 4 years if you study abroad for a term or for a year?
  • Is there a way I can talk with one of the students who has attended this program to find out more about their experiences; how good the program is;  what classes transfer;  what they would recommend;  what they would do differently?

Travel:  
  • What is the most convenient airport to fly into to get from home to the school? 
  • How long does it take to get from the airport to the campus?
  • Are there shuttles to campus? 
  • How much do the shuttles cost? How much is a cab ride to/from?

Music Auditions:
  • Portfolios / Audition Tapes / Auditions / Practice Rooms
  • When are your audition and interview dates?
  • Do I need to bring an accompanist to my audition?
  • May I audition for more than one instrument?
  • How do I submit my audition portfolio?
  • What are the practice rooms like?  Are they large enough? Which ones have pianos in them?  Do you have to provide your own music stand?
  • What are the hours for the practice rooms?
  • Are you allowed to practice on stage? If so, when?
  • What music teachers are available for lessons? How much do lessons typically cost?
  • Are there music scholarships? If so, when is the competition for those?
Art / Theater / Dance
  • What are your specific portfolio requirements?
  • How many studios do you have?  
  • How many performances will I have?
  • Can I specialize in dance and something else?
  • When are auditions?
  • Are there any dance scholarships? If so, when are the competitions?
  • How many students apply each year?  How many spots are available?
  • Is there a theater/dance/art/music minor?
  • How many main stage performances are there each year?
  • Can Freshmen perform in main stage performances?
  • Are there summer programs available?

Sports / IM:
  • When is recruiting?  What is the timeline?
  • What is your coaching style?
  • What are the practice schedules like?
  • What is the regular schedule like?
  • What percentage of freshman play all 4 years?
  • Scholarships for athletes: What's available? Are they renewable?
  • How many walk-ons do you normally have?
  • When do I have to come back for summer practice?
  • What is the GPA for the team?  Are there study tables / tutors available?
Clubs / Extracurricular Activities:
  • Which clubs / extra curricular activities do you have available?
  • How often do they meet?
  • Insert specific questions here:

Rec center / Gym facilities:  
  • Are they open/ available for non-athletes?
  • Is there a cost affiliated / associated with the rec center?
  • Are they open late at night or on the weekends?  
  • How easy is it to get an available treadmill on the weekends? 
  • How safe do you feel working out late at night? 

Social atmosphere:
  • I read that this campus tends to be a bit more liberal and open-minded.  Do you believe that statement to be true?  Can you give me an example of what you see on campus?
  • Do most people stay on campus during the weekends? Or go home?
  • Is there an active Greek life on campus?  What percentage of students live in sororities / fraternities?


Health Facilities:
  • What are the health facilities available to students?
  • How do the folks on campus deal with stress during exam weeks?  Are there planned de-stressing activities for students?  

Safety on Campus:  
  • Are the buildings all locked? Do you need a key-card to access?
  • Are there campus security officers located?
  • Is the campus on the blue-light system?
  • How safe do most women feel walking around campus in the evenings?  
  • How safe do most women feel during the day?  
  • While working out?

Storage: 
  • What types of storage facilities are on campus (or near campus) to store items during the summer or over winter break?

Work Study: What types of jobs are available for Work Study positions?


Questions to ask students:

  • Where do you study?

  • Why should I choose this school over the others I’m looking at?  Why did you choose this school over others you looked at?

  • What is a typical week day like for you?

  • What is your favorite class you have taken so far?  What made it so great?

  • Who is your favorite professor? Why?

  • How effective is your adviser? How is academic advising organized here?

  • What do you wish you could change about this school?

  • Is there anything you know now that you wish you had known as a prospective student? 



Colleges: Narrowing down the search

Narrowing down the college search

Alas, the college hunt is upon us, and it is time to begin narrowing down the college search.  As I am most fastidious about researching and organizing and planning, I thought I’d pass along the process by which we began our hunt.

When I first started, I basically started with a google search of all the colleges that had the major my kiddo wanted. Then she started giving me parameters with regard to locations she was not willing to move to. Then I started asking her other questions: 

  • What areas around the country would you like to live? Are there any areas you aren’t willing to move to?
  • How big of a campus did she think she might like?
  • Does she prefer smaller classes? or the anonymity of large classes?
  • Did she want to participate in sports or XC activities on campus? 
  • Was she looking for more flexibility with being able to choose which classes to take?  Or did she want to have a more well-defined curriculum so that she could just go, take the classes she was supposed to take when she was supposed to take them, and then she'd graduate? 
  • What was the average GPA, ACT and SAT scores for admitting students in this year's class profile? 
  • Will she meet that minimum standard? 
  • Did she want a conservative campus? or a more liberal one? Something that was LGBT friendly? 
  • Did she want something that had a religious component to it?
  • Does the school offer financial aid? How much? What was the average financial aid package? 
  • What was the school's endowment? 
  • Did the school have 100% meet of the kid's financial need? Was the school need blind? 
  • Did the school offer merit scholarships? 
  • Is there an active Greek life on campus? Did she want that?

From there, I took my list of schools, and crossed off the ones that were in the areas she didn't want to move to. Crossed off all the ones that were too big. Crossed off the ones that didn't meet her "desired" or "ideal" campus. And then I got to work.

I went to each school's website and read about their academic program in the major she was interested in. Then I went to the US News & World Report website on colleges and gathered information regarding class sizes, endowments, financial aid packages and so forth. Then I started compiling lists, and narrowing down the field.  

Over the course of the next six months or so, I put together a portfolio for her “short list” of colleges.  Each college has its own section. 

 The first part of the college’s section contained the following information:

Yale College , New Haven, CT
New Haven, CT 06520
Phone: (203) 432-4771

Tuition: $47,600
Room and Board: $14,600
Books & Misc:
Avg Aid: $ 45,710
EFC for this college: $XXX
SAT: 690-800 per subject
ACT: 32-35   GPA:

Students: 5,477 (Total w/grad: 12,336)
74.6% of classes under 20 students
2014 Endowment: $23,858,561,000
3.2% accepted 

Tuition PLUS Room and Board: $63,250
Meets 100% of financial need with scholarship grants and on-campus employment
Estimated family contribution: $xxx


Then I read the book, “Fiske Guide to Colleges 2015”  and took notes on that particular college, first highlighting information that I felt might be relevant for my kiddo, then going back and typing information into my portfolio for each college.

Next, I went to each college’s academic website for the major which she wishes to pursue.  I copied / pasted the requirements for the major, included a list of all possible courses that could be taken for that major, and included any additional information (such as courses that are cross-fields applicable).  I included all this information in her college portfolio.

When I had a running list of 20 or so, I did more in-depth research regarding each school. I narrowed the list down further to 8.

I came up with a list of questions to ask on college tours, and she took it, along with the college portfolio, with her on a whirl-wind tour of 7 college campuses in 8 days.  

She now has her list ranked in order of preference.  

We can still open the list up again to the remaining 12 that we couldn't fit on this college tour if she's interested. 

We'll be able to have a better idea as to whether or not some of the schools will be too far out of reach once we get her ACT scores back. We have a rough idea, based on PSAT scores, the number of AP classes she will have taken by the time she graduates and her current GPA, but a lot comes down to those darned test scores. 

A lot of schools are ACT / SAT optional now, particularly with the new SAT that came out this year giving many schools a bit of a headache. But yet, we still found during the college tours that they ARE looking at those test scores -- even if it is just ONE piece of the puzzle. So many schools are looking for LEADERSHIP qualities, so she wants to make sure she boosts those up from this summer's job / volunteer time. 

During my search, I came across this online "book" and it has been helpful. 


For those of you who want to know how crazy-detailed I got in this whole process, here is what her portfolio contains for each of her colleges:

Inside each college’s mini portfolio is the following information:
    • General information about the college (see below)
    • General information about the major
    • Questions asked during the college tour
    • First impressions based upon the college tour
    • Answers to the questions asked during the college tour
    • Questions to ask during the interview (usually the minor questions that didn’t get answered during the tour, or that have come up since)
    • Links to detailed information regarding each of the professors in her major, and the research that each professor in the department is working on.
    • Eventually we’ll add in: 
      • Due dates for application, application requirements, fees, etc.
      • A check list to mark off all application materials (including letters of reference) that have been sent and received
      • Estimated Family Contribution for each college, based on the school’s EFC calculator
      • Acceptance letters and each college’s financial aid package

Hopefully all of this information will make the college hunt easier for her.  So much more is available online on the college websites than was ever available back in the dark ages when dinosaurs roamed the earth and I was on my college hunt.

But honestly, getting into college seems so much more competitive now than it was when I was in school.  And with all the time she is spending in AP classes, doing homework, extra curricular activities, volunteering, and having a social life, there is too little time left over for her to be spending the detailed time and effort to thoroughly vet the colleges she may wish to attend. Whatever help I can lend along the way to make this process easier for her, will help all of us in the end.


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